The Universality of Butt Sex

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The great thing about butts, and specifically buttholes, is that everybody has one – making anal sex a rather universal concept.

Like all sex, there are many ways to experience and play around with anal sex. There are varying degrees of intensity, intimacy, pain and pleasure to be selected and experimented with. Scientifically speaking, anal sex can definitely be pleasurable. There are a bunch of nerve endings in and around the anus that really like to be stimulated, plus with penetrative anal sex, there’s indirect stimulation of the prostate, or the clitoris. However, with so many sensitive nerve endings and a sphincter that tends to tighten as a reflex, anal sex can of course be painful, and that is often – but not always – a turn-off.

If experiencing pain or discomfort during sex makes your skin crawl, then penetrative anal sex might not be for you. If you do want to try some ass play with your partner, then anilingus – oral sex focused around stimulating the anus – is not at all painful or invasive, but still very intimate. Communicating pleasure in this situation is especially important for less experienced couples, especially as it can be hard at first to know if you’re doing the right thing down there.

If that’s a little too intimate for you and your partner, another less intimidating way to get into ass play is to use sex toys. Vibrators are especially great for relaxing the butt and stimulating nerve endings. Sex toys take the pressure off both the giver and receiver, leading the way to further relaxation and pleasure. Plus, if you’re partnerless or your partner doesn’t want to play with your butt, you can just use them on yourself!

Penetrative anal sex – whether it’s via penis, dildo, fingers, or whatever your creative mind comes up with – requires patience, lube and condoms (or latex gloves). Start slow – like real slow – and make sure the receiver is thoroughly aroused and relaxed as you begin. Use an appropriate amount of your lubricant of choice – water based lubes work well with condoms but is easily absorbed by the body so will need reapplication. But remember, this isn’t a slip ’n’ slide. Remember that, like a vagina, a butthole is a delicate balance of bacteria that does not need or want any sort of outside infection – so start clean and wear a goddamn condom (or latex gloves)! And for vagina owners, unless you want to be drinking gallons of cranberry juice and crying while peeing – never go from ass to pussy without changing your form of protection or washing up first.

Anal sex is a contradiction of extremes. It can be extremely pleasurable but also extremely painful. It can be extremely intimate or extremely distancing when one person is not enjoying it or when used as a device in role-playing sex. This means that communication is especially important because it is so easy to tip to from one extreme to another.

Aside from being something exciting to play with in sex, anal sex is an important social leveller. Anyone can be fucked up the ass. All butthole possessing humans be they queer, straight, male, female, intersex or any variation of the sort can experience the beauty and wonder of anal sex. Seriously, if the thought of a magnificent global anal orgy doesn’t warm your heart and get your juices flowing, I don’t know what will.